True Story (30 mins)
Please read this true story and think about the questions below.Story 1: Toyin and Dare
Toyin never thought Dare, her boyfriend of four months really meant any harm when he asked her to visit him at home. He was alone when she got there and after entertaining her with a bottle of drink, he broached the topic of sex. As usual; Toyin gave him very good reasons why they should abstain, but he was adamant.
They had an argument which resulted in Dare insulting Toyin. He said she was unattractive and had a very ugly body and that was why she was refusing to sleep with him. Toyin tried to endure his insults till he touched her breasts, grabbed her and forcefully kissed her.
Toyin slapped him before walking out of his house. Later, she confided in her friend, Ify that she had never felt so embarrassed and scared in her life
Story 2 :Precious and Sunday
Precious is an older women. She pays the school fees of Sunday. She invites him to her house and offers him good food. She asks him to come and sit on her bed with her. He refuses and then she begins to threaten him that she will stop paying school fees.
Story 3: Odun and Mavis
Odun in a chief, he offer Mavis a lift home. She accepts, they have a nice talk in the car and Odun brings her home. The next time they meet Odun drives Mavis again but now he asks her to come with him to the Sheraton hotel near the airport. She refuses, he threatens to drop her out of the car far from her place.
Think about the following questions or discuss them with a friend:
- Was the abuser a stranger or someone known to the victim?
- What feelings did the victim have?
- Did abuse involve touching?
- What kind of trick or force was used?
- What undue advantage did the abuser have?
- How do you think the abuser felt after the incident?
- What advice can we give Toyin for the future?
- What advice can we give Dare for the future?